Patience: a virtuous quality characterized by calm endurance when dealing with difficult circumstances; perseverance when facing provocation or delay; not reacting negatively to annoyance or anger; forbearance when under stress, particularly that which is long- term; steadfastness when faced with difficulties; bearing misfortune or pain without loss of temper.
What is there about the quality of patience that causes so many of us to respond to the very word with a sense of deficiency? “I don’t have enough, I need more,” we say, putting it in the rarefied domain occupied by such phenomena as time and money. No matter how much money people have, they seem to feel they need more and, indeed, in diffi cult economic times, many truly do need more. As to time, in any given day we all get exactly the same amount. There’s not much point in pleading for more because in each hour the clock offers only the allotted number of minutes and seconds agreed upon by our ancient ancestors. Grudgingly, it ticks with a relentless, unyielding persistence that alters not for even the most saintly or Buddha- like among us. The accepted measurement of time allocates twenty- four hours for each day, and for now and the foreseeable future, that is it. Unable to convince the clock of the joys of generosity that could be experienced by its offering just a bit more of its precious commodity, we alter our approach and try to squeeze just one more project into the day’s already bloated schedule.
The wonderful thing about patience, unlike time, is the more we use it, the more we have. Also, by its nature, patience creates a spaciousness that lets us feel as if we have more time than we have ever had. Thus, patience can alter our everyday experience from one of anxiety and deficiency to one of peace and plentitude.
There are certain psychological advantages to residing within the same body for a lengthy period of time, say seventy years or so. For instance, when life’s ever- changing nature presents itself in a particularly unpleasant form, it helps to know that we have been through it before, or something similar, and things have worked out. They may not have worked out exactly as we would have liked; nevertheless, they have worked out. We got drenched but the storm passed. There is something comforting about familiarity, even with that which is unpleasant. Familiarity can be a great ally in the development of patience.
By contrast, one doesn’t tend to encounter many physical perks as the bodily structure ages. That is, unless you enjoy more frequent visits to doctors (who seem to be getting younger) as you experience various organs, muscles, neurons, and tendons beginning to show signs of extended use.
From PATIENCE by Allan Lokos. Published by arrangement with Tarcher, a member of Penguin Group (USA), Inc. Copyright (c) Allan Lokos, 2012.
Allan Lokos’ Patience is a profound, beautifully written guide to developing something many of us could use a great deal more of.
To survive the roller coaster ride of life—the sometimes seemingly endless shifts from pleasure to pain, gain to loss, praise to blame, and back again—requires a substantial depth of, you guessed it, patience, something many of us often feel we have precious little of. Anger and patience are two sides of the same coin and, if we hope to develop our ability to be patient, we must first learn to recognize and tame anger's many manifestations—from annoyance, rage and bitterness, to ill will, hostility and indignation.
In this potentially life-changing book, Allan sheds new light on this much sought-after state of being and provides a road map for cultivating more patience in your life. A revolutionary, step-by-step guide to weathering life's storms, with insights from this inspiring spiritual teacher, Patience features interviews with a wide range of people who have had their patience tested—and often sorely.
Patience will help you discover where the heart of patience lies, enabling you to enjoy greater peace, contentment and fulfillment in your life.
Softcover Book : 240 pages
Publisher: Penguin Group USA ( January 01, 2012 )
Item #: 13-472527
Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 8.25 inches
Product Weight: 7.0 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
I just started to read this book, so far its very good. I look forward to the rest of the book.
One of the fastest reads I've ever done...even with marking many excerpts, not just with brackets, but with comments on the margins. I am a different person after reading this. I bought this to learn about patience and found out the other side of the coin was anger. Wow, what I didn't know about anger! In just a week, I've responded so differently to many situations that would otherwise have resulted in frustration and disappointment. I will probably re-read this book several times a year and have already passed on its benefits to others...lots of others. It must have been divine guidance leading me to this book. Thanks, Allan, for the wisdom.
Reviewer: Bj D
This was a very good book. I totally enjoyed it after the first 1/2. The author uses quite a few Hindu words throughout the book. I felt that if he kept it more
"English" it would have been easier for Enlish speaking people to understand. That being said....after the first 1/2 he doesn't use that language as much and it becomes a better and easier read. The first 1/2 is harder to digest.